It is common place these days to find a lot of Christian marriages on the brink of total collapse. And often times, the main cause of the marital crisis revolves around sexual incompatibilities in the marriage. Sometimes, it is the total lack of it that causes problems. But where sexual incompatibility is the issue, the woman, in most cases, has been found to be the guilty party. It is either she does not want sex so much because she claims she doesn’t enjoy it, or she wants it but pretends she does not attach any importance to it and so gives the impression she does not enjoy it. Whichever way, such situation is bound to cause conflict in the home. Most men do not react well to sexual incompatibilities in the bedroom and this often puts marriages in jeopardy.
But these days, a lot of men and women of God are taking it upon themselves to educate Christian couples on how to spice up their marriage and get things right especially in the bed room where it appears a large chunk of marital issues emanate from. Reverend (now Bishop) Funke Felix-Adejumo is one of such women of God. She has been around in the vineyard for quite a while and is presently regarded as one of the most powerful female voices coming from the church of God. She is a renowned Nigerian female minister, philanthropist, and global speaker, known for her powerful ministry focused on women's empowerment through her Funke Felix-Adejumo Foundation, annual "The Woman" conferences, and work with her husband, Bishop Felix 'Remi Adejumo, at Agape Christian Ministries. A prolific author and advocate for women's dignity, she established significant projects like the Grace Orphanage and a children's hospital, impacting millions worldwide with her message of faith and purpose.
Bishop Funke Felix-Adejumo advocates that sexual intimacy within marriage is a divine gift, designed by God to be enjoyable, pleasurable, and a source of blessing, rather than a taboo subject. She encourages women to shed cultural, restrictive mindsets, openly embrace their sexuality, and communicate desires to their spouses. One of the reasons this phenomenal woman advocates for women to embrace sex is because she believes sexual intimacy is a sacred, and healthy, part of a marital covenant designed for pleasure and bonding. She also believes it serves as a profound connection, fostering emotional bonding and trust between couples. Reverend Funke Felix-Adejumo highlights that it offers physical pleasure, and boosts self-esteem.
Funke challenges the notion that women should not express enjoyment of sex, urging them to stop pretending and to openly communicate, even advising wives to commend their husbands after. This would strengthen the marriage. And it is an effective way to keep a marriage vibrant and active. She often emphasizes that for a lasting, successful marriage, intimacy should be approached with joy, without shame
In a recent sermon recorded on video, the Co-Founder of Agape Christian Ministries, Reverend Funke Felix-Adejumo, called on African women to embrace their sexuality without shame, challenging cultural norms that often suppress women’s desires and limit open discussions about intimacy.
Speaking about the importance of healthy and fulfilling marriages in the video which she shared in an Instagram post, Adejumo encouraged women to shed societal expectations and confidently express their needs to their partners. She emphasised that mutual enjoyment and open communication are crucial for a thriving relationship.
She said, “I like sex. If I don’t, how will I have children? And you are just pretending, you like sex. African culture has told you that a woman should not show that she enjoys s3x, otherwise they will call her a prostitute.”
She stressed the importance of discarding outdated beliefs that undermine marital intimacy.
“When the man is touching you, you’re happy. So, the first thing is to disbelieve that in your mind, otherwise, you’ll be causing problems in your marriage,” she added.
Adejumo urged wives to be more expressive during intimate moments, shedding inhibitions and embracing the joy of physical connection.
“Tell yourself, sex is good. I want my husband. And when you’re having sex with your husband, don’t pretend and just be like missionary. Talk, moan, sex is good,” she said.
She further highlighted the dangers of repressing desires, cautioning that such attitudes can damage relationships, “You cannot believe that African mentality. Let’s change it. The devil is using it to destroy marriages because that’s the highest level of intimacy.
“Tickle your husband, touch him when he’s making love to you. When he finishes, tell him he did a good job,” she concluded.
Let us tell you a little about this amazing woman. Born on January 28, 1963, in Ibadan, Oyo State, young Funke grew up in a poverty-stricken home but persevered to become a renowned speaker, teacher, and counselor. Funke gave her life to Christ at 14 and later met her husband, Bishop Felix 'Remi Adejumo, at the University of Ibadan in 1982. They founded Agape Christian Ministries in 1988, which now has over 30 branches across Nigeria.
Through her Funke Felix-Adejumo Foundation, she supports widows, single mothers, and orphans. Notable initiatives include the Grace Orphanage, a children's hospital, and Another Chance Women's Home for domestic violence survivors.
She is a "Female Enthusiast" and "Global Speaker" with a mission to honor God and bless humanity, especially by restoring dignity to womanhood. Reverend Funke serves alongside her husband, Bishop Felix 'Remi Adejumo, at Agape Christian Ministries Worldwide, where she was recently consecrated as a Bishop, making history as a female Bishop in Nigeria. She leads her own Woman Ministry, a platform that has hosted large-scale international events like "The Woman Conference," which brings women globally for spiritual growth and impact. Through her foundation, the Funke Felix-Adejumo Foundation, (FFA) she runs flagship projects including the Grace Orphanage, a children's hospital, and the "Mothers' Summit," focusing on empowering women in various spheres of life.
She has authored over 50 books, including "Fifty Lessons Life Taught Me," and her messages emphasize faith, purpose, financial wisdom, and strong family values. She is married to Bishop Felix 'Remi Adejumo, and they have four biological children and grandchildren, plus many adopted children, forming the "Agape Family Worldwide".
In one of her recent teachings, she emphasizes the importance of a vibrant sex life in marriage. She implores the women to take the sexual needs of their partners seriously and not only that, they must learn to spice things up in the bedroom.
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